How to Find Your Prince
(or Princess) Charming
...the Love of Your Life
Prince Charming actually lives...and Princess Charming does too! You
CAN find the love of your life. And you start by preparing yourself from within.
Love always starts from within, for yourself first, and then extends outward to others. However, we all have been programmed to look for love outside ourselves, to try and get love from someone else, in order to feel good within. Unfortunately, this doesn't really work, and only creates suffering and frustration for the unhappy seeker.
Learning to love yourself is the most important step toward finding and sustaining your ideal relationship.
Also, you must begin to examine your attitudes and beliefs that may undermine your success in relationships:
- Do you believe you are lovable?
- Do you believe you deserve to be loved?
- Can you love and accept yourself the way you are?
If your answer to any of these
questions is no, you will probably encounter difficulties in your quest for your ideal partner (or, if you find the person, you may try to push them away!)
Your beliefs, both conscious and subconscious, will determine what you attract and how you experience life. So, it is ultimately your negative programming about yourself and what you deserve that keeps love away and creates unhappiness in your dealings with others.
Can you change the negative programming? Yes!
Phyllis Light shows us how to change this negative programming in her
book, Prince Charming Lives! Human beings are like computers. Since
the day of our birth, we've been programmed to perceive and experience life in specific ways. The situations we encountered from infancy through childhood set the stage for what we come to expect later in life. In short, all that we have ever experienced - both positive and negative - is stored deep in our memory banks.
This is what happens on a daily basis in our lives: our old programs of how life is for us come up and play themselves out, and we continually attract similar situations over and over again. Since we don't understand what's really happening, we are often quick to blame those around us, thinking they are doing it to us. We don't want to admit that the 'bug' might be in our 'software package' - in our own internal makeup, and not in some other person.
Blaming others for our dilemmas causes us to stay stuck with our negative feelings and never get to the bottom of what's taking place within ourselves. Once we begin to be responsible for our own lives and make a sincere and concerted effort to remove the blocks that keep us from loving ourselves, we can move in the direction of finding happiness with a partner.
Before you can attract Prince (or Princess) Charming, your inner 'computer' needs to be reprogrammed so that you are ready, willing and able to receive him or her into your life. In order to do this, you need to take an assessment of where you are now, identifying present attitudes, beliefs and experiences in relationships - giving you valuable clues about which negative programs in your subconscious mind need to be healed.